[LOVES]
my girl, except that stubborn streak of cos!(ooo...and that laziness)
my family. I'm a family man ok
my kids. ok, FUTURE kids.
[HATES]
lazy bums. *tsk tsk*
getting skinny....
...and getting fat
no, I'm not sounding confused. U are the confused one.
skinny as in arms, and fat as in belly. Got it?
told you I hate talking to goons.
Note: This page was written by my ex gf, just wanna keep it as a memory...
Friday, December 16, 2005
I am currently reading a book called Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It is my darling's and she says that it is an excellent book and might actually improves our relationship. After reading the first 2 chapters, I learnt a few things. Two of the most common mistakes we make in relationship are:
1. A man tries to change a woman's feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr Fix-it and offering solutions to her problems that invalidates her feelings.
2. A woman tries to change a man's behaviour when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism.
Most of the time, when our partner resists us, it is probably because we have made a mistake in our timing or approach. I have experienced this before by making unnecessary comments at the inappropriate time, thus adding frustration to my gf's already upset and confused mind. From then on, I tried to access the situation first before making any comments or offering any advice.
"A man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself."
Women, learn to give up giving advice.
Men, learn to listen.
There are a lot of things in the book which I can relate to and which I thought will be useful in improving the relationship not only with my gf but also my other friends. I am going to continue reading the book and will post more whenever I find things which are useful and I wanna share here.
sin83
12/16/2005 10:31:00 AM